August 6, 2010

A life-changing decision

I’d like you to try a little experiment.
The next time you’re chatting with someone,
Ask her or him about their unfulfilled ambitions.
Phrase your question something like this, “If you could make a living doing what you love, what would that be?
Then…
Listen carefully for a few key phrases.
Phrases like, “If only I was in a better situation…
Or words such as, “One day—I don’t know—maybe I’ll give it a try…
Or maybe something like, “When (fill in the blank) happens, then I might be able to do it…

What’s the point of this exercise?

Well, you might remember, the other day, I said I’d explain the difference between Cause and Effect.

Why is this important?

Because if you’re seriously thinking about making the leap,
Then understanding the implications of Cause and Effect is a crucial first step, one so important, it might well be the key element needed in achieving your desired goal.
And there’s no better way to demonstrate Cause and Effect than through our  experiment.

You see, what’s important to understand is that,
When someone uses sentences with words such as, “If only…” or “One day…” or “When…
They are making excuses for not doing what they truly want to do.
And that’s called Living at Effect.
Living at Effect means that, though we have a dream, we unfortunately see it as one that’s much too difficult, or  one that’s simply unattainable.
It effectively means that we’re letting something that everyone experiences (fear, indecision, self-doubt) hold us back.

Living at Cause, however, means not giving in to fear or indecision.
It means not letting any of that deter us,
And it means making a decision to, quite simply, Go for it!
It means, if we want to savour reward,
We’ll need to start using  different words.
Words like, “How can I make this happen?
Instead of “If only I could make it happen.
Words like, “What if it is possible? What if it is possible to do it now?
Instead of, “Well, maybe, one day, it will be possible.
Living at Cause means changing our mindset,
Away from indecision and self-doubt,
Toward possibility. Toward potential.

You know, there’s a blogger, an author—Everett Bogue—that I’m following.
Everett Bogue writes about his minimalist life.
I enjoy reading Everett for a number of reasons;
He’s entertaining, he has great and, sometimes, controversial ideas.
And he shares a wonderful, inspiring message about getting rid of stuff in order to live a full life.
But the first thing I recognized in Everett was that he’s living at Cause.
Why do I say that?
Because, as explained on his blog, one day he came to a few decisions.
One day he decided to quit his job, move to a new city and just live with less.
Those are not easy—nor commonplace—decisions.
But, he did it.
Do you see what I mean?
Whether he knew or not, at one point he decided to live at Cause.
And the rest followed.

It doesn’t really take much, when you think about it.
Just a simple decision, really.

And where does that leave you?
I think it leaves you back at our experiment.
Search for those key words, “If only…” or “One day…
But rather than seeking them out in others.
See if you’re the one using them.
Then make the decision to use different words.
And begin the transformation from Effect… to Cause.
It’s the perfect place to start.


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August 2, 2010

Making the leap

In November 2002, I had it all.
From the outside, looking in, I was a guy who had it all.
I had a business.
I had employees. Offices. Clients.
I was a businessman.
A successful, busy businessman.

Funny though.
Because from where I sat,
From the inside, looking out.
It didn’t feel like I had it all.
In fact, in November 2002, I knew it was over.
I knew my business wasn’t cutting it anymore.
It wasn’t meaningful.
It wasn’t fun.
It wasn’t me.

So I began putting plans in place,
Plans that would allow me to make the leap,
From an uninspiring business,
And into a Net Present Value lifestyle.

In July 2003, I took the leap.
And jumped from a familiar but boring career.
Into an exciting but, still, uncertain vocation.
All I knew, back then, was that I wanted to write and I wanted to teach.
All I knew was, if I could pull it off, if I could find a way to make a living at writing and teaching,
Then I’d be living a Net Present Value lifesyle.

Now, seven years later.
Having accomplished my goal,
People often ask me,
How can I do that?
How can I make the leap and live a Net Present Value lifestyle?

The initial step, first and foremost, is that you must take stock of where things stand.
You must decide whether your current situation is, indeed, one you want to change.
And if you decide that it is,
Then start by reminding yourself, every day, that it is possible.
It is possible to make positive and powerful changes.

I’d also like you to read this post on Cause and Effect.
Because of its importance, I’ll write more on Cause and Effect soon.

In the meantime let me leave you with a quote,
One that inspired me—all those years ago—to wonder whether I could make the leap.
The quote’s by W.H. Murray and it goes like this.

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness.

Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth,

The ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans:

That the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too.

A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance,

Which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.”

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July 28, 2010

No regrets

How old are you?
Whatever your reply, I bet you’re not old enough.
Old enough to have real regrets.

The other day, I came upon a thought-provoking piece attributed to ex-NFL lineman Joe Ehrmann. It goes like this; there are Three Things the Elderly Regret not Having Done,

Those three regrets are:
1: Not leaving a legacy
2: Not taking time for reflection
3: Not taking more risks

Can you do me a favour?
Can you sit back and think about those three things?
Go ahead,
Think about them long and hard.
Think about how those three things relate to what you’re trying to accomplish—today—in your everyday life.
As you rush—feverishly—through your days,
Just trying to get things done,
How mindful are you of those three things?

Well, let’s see.
Do any of us think of legacies?
How could we?
We’re busy.
Working at our jobs, making ends meet.
We have bosses and obligations,
Colleagues and commitments,
Legacies?
Who has time?

What about risks?
How many of us take risks?
Other than, maybe, throwing caution to the wind during a weekend rafting expedition,
Or a bungee jumping excursion,
Most of don’t venture too far out on that limb.
For many of us, taking risks with our careers, with our livelihood—with the stuff we’d really love to do,
Is all—you know—too risky.

What was the last thing?
Ah yes, reflection.
Do we stop and reflect?
Actually, many of us do.
And what do we reflect on?
On our future.
On what we’re going to do, once we’re done with whatever it is—our jobs, our businesses, our careers—we’re doing now.
We reflect on what we’re going to accomplish,
On how great our lives will be,
At some hazy, uncertain point in the future.
And until that hazy, hopeful future arrives,
We continue to live our lives—with not much more than a glint of reflection.

And that’s what I find curious about the Three Things the Elderly Regret not Having Done
Do you see?
In our 30s, our 40s, and even into our 50s and 60s…
We sometimes think about all the wonderful, meaningful, fun things we’re going to do—some day.
Then…
We wake up and and realize…
We’ve arrived at that hazy, uncertain point of our lives,
Where there are more yesterdays than tomorrows,
And, suddenly, we’re the ones thinking of Three Things we Regret not Having Done.

My message is simple.
Don’t wait to find your purpose.
Don’t wait to pursue your passion, or to do what’s meaningful.
Go ahead,
Reflect on what’s important.
Go ahead,
Take a few risks.
Go ahead,
Leave a legacy.
Go ahead,
Live your life, every day. Turn your work into play. And never, ever stop pursuing your passion.
Go ahead.
Do it now.

And,
If you keep visiting my blog, I’ll show you how.


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July 22, 2010

Net. Present. What?

When first seeing my book, most people ask,
The Net Present Value of Life? What does that mean, anyway?

With no lengthy preamble, no rambling introduction, here are a few definitions.

The Net Present Value of Life means

  • Today—this moment—is more valuable than anything else you possess;
  • The future—tomorrow—is tenuous and uncertain;
  • The value of life, today, is therefore greater than the uncertain value of life in the future;
  • Life is supposed to be lived, cherished and enjoyed today; right now. Not at some uncertain, hazy date in the future;
  • There is no better way to enjoy life than to do something that has meaning and purpose;
  • Consumerism and consumption are not proof of an enjoyable life. They are substitutes for an enjoyable life
  • To work for decades at uninspiring jobs (in the hope of, one day, having a happy retirement) is a notion both outdated and uninspiring;
  • There are, simply, too many myths about retirement;
  • The courage to walk away from an empty, unfulfilling career and make the leap to a meaningful life is more rewarding than it is rare;
  • It is both surprising and inspiring to realize how few material possessions you need when living a meaningful life;
  • There is no better career choice than the pursuit and attainment of passion and  purpose;
  • To live a life not dictated by society, by the experts, by the boss, by the neighbours or, even, by public opinion is less difficult than imagined;
  • There is satisfaction derived from remembering that you’re in charge of your life, that you’re the one firmly planted in the driver’s seat;
  • There is only one meaningful drumbeat to march to, and that is the one you create;
  • Caring and careful counsel provided by loved ones should never be confused with the warnings and reprimands of doubting naysayers;
  • The one scarce, valuable (and non-renewable) resource is time;
  • There are but a few ingredients to a happy life. They include; health, relationships, love, purpose, passion, inspiration, determination, honesty, laughter, potential, and possibility;
  • Money is just another of life’s ingredients, and it’s one that cannot buy any of the ingredients listed above;
  • There is as much illusion to money as there is value;
  • Material possessions will never result in true happiness. Making the leap to your own version of success will;
  • And finally, The Net Present Value of Life means to live fully every day, to turn work into play, and to never, ever stop pursuing your passion.

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